After 15 years together, she’s spent the last two or so insisting that I need to do more things that men do. It’s like she wants me to be a stereotype of someone I’m really not. She suggested I should have become a mechanic instead of doing white collar work because she thinks blue collar men are attractive. This was after she wanted me to spend years building my profession because she likes the money. She hates that I read and write a lot. She’s asked me to grow a full beard, and tells me I need to read only about sports and not other books or articles. This morning she actually told me I need more male friends to go “hunting and fishing with.” I’ve never done those things in my life. Now let me make clear I have nothing against any of the things she described or the men who do them. Some things sound like fun. But why is she so into trying to change me? This makes me insecure about two years after she had an emotional affair and spent a lot of time after telling me I’m not much of a man. What do I do in this situation? Advice is appreciated.

I think its time to move on, Its seems like she’s trying to change you into the guy she might have had the emotional affair with. You seem like a really nice man and there’s nothing wrong with reading, being clean cut or staying inside… I don’t think you’ll have a problem finding somebody else who will love every piece of you…
Start telling her she needs to do a bunch of stuff contrary to her nature. I would start with shutting the hell up.
Seriously, may have run its course, its just a matter of time until you come home and find her boning the Audi mechanic. Trade her in for something better.
You know what’s even more manly than beards and fishing? Laying down the law. That’s right, tell her to speak when spoken to and do her houseworks and you will have peace in your home
Replace “as” with “into”, and you will have your answer.
Kick her out of your house and don’t let her back in.
Don’t you wish your wife was a troll like me?