Would It Be Rude To Ask If A Friend Can Spare Used Baby Items?

1. Because I Said So Says

   I don’t think you can come out and ask them for things, even if you know they won’t be trying to sell their old baby gear to make back their money. Just sit back and wait for them to offer, they will probably send you home with a carload of stuff. People realize they would rather have room in their basements for things other than old toys and furniture! I have several friends who are done having kids and they gave me tons and tons of baby stuff without me asking.

2. K Says

   …d’you _need_ a pump? If you are not forced back to work, sans bébé, before +/- 6mo it is absolutely not a necessity and more likely to cause problems than to fix anything.
   Don’t do this. I think you misunderstand the nature of the relationship — that they are still giving you money is telling; you still have the employer-employee dynamic there. It would also be dreadful to repay their generosity by asking for more gifts.

3. Roxy222u Says

   I would ask if they are thinking of selling any of their baby items. That way it doesn’t sound presumptious and if they want to give to you they can. You would have to be prepared that they might not want to give things to you for free, for various perfectly valid reasons of their own, but at least you’d know. And if they are good quality items you’d still be getting a bargain if you paid second hand prices. Good luck

4. SoBox Says

   Yes, I think it would be a bit rude to ask for the items. You could mention how expensive everything is and perhaps ask the parents what items they think are absolutetely essential for a newborn. Accept graciously if they offer to give you anything, but do not come out and ask for anything.

5. Danica Says

   I’m not really sure but either way, I wouldn’t take the best pump. You should always but your own breast pump new so that you don’t very an infection. I wouldn’t ask them for anything unless they either offer out show interest in getting rid of their stuff. Hope this helps.

6. Doctor J Says

   It would probably be more tactful if you just said how expensive everything was, and you were thinking about maybe buying certain things second hand…….then if they want to, they will offer you some of their old things. Asking them outright could seem a bit forward.

7. A Says

   I think it’s rude. Also since they normally give you money they would know you might have a problem getting those things so if they wanted to they would probably offer. If they haven’t offered they don’t want to.

8. Katie Says

   Don’t ask for specific things, that would be rude. I don’t think it’s rude to ask a friend I’d there’s anything that they were planning on getting rid of or selling. You need to offer to buy it.

9. woollysh Says

   I wouldn’t ask outright, but I would let them know you’ll be looking for bargains for your baby and are happy to use second hand. Then wait for them to offer.

10. T-Nubs Says

    it’s kind of a grey area! it really depends on your relationship with them and your forwardness with people. if you dont’ have issues asking for things then i wouldn’t worry about it. if it’s something you feel shy about asking for then i would prolly not. you could always offer to pay for it and if they are the way you’re describing they’ll prolly just say take it.

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